27
November
2007
Progress is a nice word, but change is its motivator and change has enemies. - Robert F. Kennedy
I’ve made a lot of changes in my life over the past few years. And it seems I’ve upset a lot of people.
“What happened to the old you?”
“Remember you used to do this all the time?”
“I miss that”, they say.
Well there are a lot of things I used to do that I don’t do anymore. I’ve made many Life Changes. And what I must have is respect for the way I live my life, that is if you want to have a relationship with me.
I used to be the person that was trying to change everybody, or save them. Things that worked for me in my life, well those close to me needed to do that because I thought it would make them happier. Well I don’t do that anymore because I realized I cannot control people. They are far, far, far, far out of my control. I cannot tell people how to live their life. The only exception to that rule is if they ask for advice or if they are children.
So several people in my life are continuously telling me how to live my life. So I ask them nicely to stop doing that. They do it again. I tell them that they are not Respecting my wishes. If I want advice I will ask for it. But everytime I speak to them, it’s the same thing over and over.
“You should do this, you should do that.”
“The old you used to do this and that, remember?”
Yes I do remember. And the old me used to be an alcoholic. Should I go back to that? The old me used wet his diapers, should I go back to that? I have changed, and I continually change from day to day. That is my right as an American, as a human being. I have stopped telling you how to live your life, now please respect Me and do the same. I’m 36 now and I have people telling me not to be friends with certain people. Can’t I decide that? I am not 12 anymore. I can make adult decisions now, can you?
By not respecting my wishes, they are pushing me farther and farther away from them. It’s like in 6th grade. Would I want to hang around a bully that beats me up everyday? Well that is what it feels like emotionally everytime I am not respected. So I make a change in my life and choose to limit my relationship with them. And that is difficult, but it is progress.
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Greg Hankerson 
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20
November
2007
Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of. - Benjamin Franklin
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19
November
2007
Happiness is a way of traveling, not a destination. I have been so consumed with reaching my goals and checking off one more item off of my to do list that I have forgotten that the process is the reward. I have been finding myself in that place where I guess in some way I have been wishing my life away. I keep saying I will be so happy when I get my book published, I will be so happy when we build our dream home, or I will be so happy this or that. This list just goes on and on. I have realized what this does is limit my happiness. It limits when I can be happy. It is not that it’s not good to use emotional forecasting, ( the use of combining visualization of your goals and how you will feel). This combination is absolutely paramount in helping you achieve your dreams. This way of traveling is more of a reminder to be in the moment. I needed to remember that joy or happiness is found in loving what you do, not the outcome.
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13
November
2007
You may of heard the term “Thinking Outside The Box” before, maybe you haven’t. Well today that term is stuck in my head for some reason. Maybe it’s because I realized I’ve been stuck inside the box for a while and it’s been getting smaller. I know in the past I have gone on autopilot. I have tasks, I do them and the next day I repeat, rinse, repeat, rinse and repeat. What this means is my world has stopped growing because I am experiencing nothing new. So today I went for a walk to the shop and talked with some friends. I watched an old lady back into my friends car and dent the tailgate. Then to my surprise he said not to worry about it as he could fix it. I also bought tickets to the Endurocross for this weekend in Vegas. That is going to be some serious fun! All of this broke my routine of staying at home and working or playing games on the computer.
Now with my business I am struggling with making it gigantic. Right now money is tight. But I want to hire a team of writers for my websites. They cost money, but their writings will bring people to my sites which will in turn make lots of money. But it will take time. So do I have them work slowly so I don’t have to pay much? Or do I borrow money to pay a big team of them? This is risky for me. I know, well I believe it will take off and prosper over time. But do I believe in myself enough to take the leap? Well I have a writer from Muldova who is doing a great job. Starting Friday I will probably hire him fulltime and look for more people to write as I have 10,000 articles that need writing (yah that is a lot) and I am adding more everyday.
I think the traditional, safe thing to do is only spend what you have. Play it safe so you can retire and live a comfortable and secure life in your retirement home. Well, millionaires didn’t play it safe, they were aggressive and took risks. Most failed many times before finding the one thing that succeeded.
With my new website model, my goal is to have 1,000,000 articles written with over a billion webpages. In the past I’ve created websites that had over a million pages. But they were filled with junk and didn’t really offer the reader something of value. But now that’s changed. With a little luck, maybe it’ll be the new MySpace, who knows.
Below is a great puzzle that can get you thinking outside of the box. The goal is to connect all 9 dots with 4 straight lines without lifting your pen off the sheet of paper. See if you can solve it.
And the answer is here:
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1
November
2007
The past week has been horrifically bad, but from all bad seems to come more good, at least in my life. I had a death in the family followed by a funeral, a fire at family’s house, a near breakup from the wife, and a lawsuit filed. Wow, the apocolypse is here. Just need some hordes of locust! But with all of this stuff going on, my mind has been running beyond max capacity to make sense of it all and to just survive it. I can logically explain why the things happened, by I still feel this giant pain in my heart. My wife has been going through her own trials and tribulations so I didn’t really get the support I wanted. In fact, I got the opposite of what I’d call support. But I guess if my wife and I were on fire, my first reaction would be to put me out.
So she was dealing with her own living hell, and I had mine. Now when we talked about her problems, I’d try to make them seem smaller than they actually were because I tend to think more logically. I always see the issues different than my wife does. I explain how everybody has their own perspective because they were raised that way. They are entitled to act however they want. We get upset when they tell us how to act, so why should we want them to change? I also inevitably find the hypocrisy in the situation. You are mad because they did this, well remember when you did the same thing here? All of what I am doing makes the other person seem that I am justifying what happened, or that it’s ok. My wife is mad, or angry, or sad, and I am doing that? To an emotional person, this is throwing gas on the flames.
So I need to learn to control my logical side and just listen, and feel compassion for their plight. Not figure how they caused it and explain it to them. Listen, feel compassion and sympathy, say I am sorry that happened and leave it at that for now. Maybe ask if there is anything I can do to help. When the emotional rollercoaster stops, then I can ask if the other person would like some input on the situation and approach it delicately, like I am walking on thin ice. Because the wound is fresh and I don’t want to cause it to start bleeding again. But until then, button my lip.
This idea is still evolving in my head, but I know it will be one of my new Golden Rules to live by so to speak. And this is all harder to do when you too are on an emotional rollercoaster like I just was.
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